Lafayette lost two babies this week. I did not know these children or their families, but they were connected to my mom tribe in some way and have made it into my heart and it is absolutely broken. This started the conversation of loving and cherishing every last minute we have with our babies because we are never guaranteed more.
It is hard to cherish every moment
When we are living our life, it is difficult (at least it is for me) to cherish every moment with our little ones. I do not want to have reminders such as this to make me stop and hug my babies. I want to do nothing but hold them super tight; I don’t want to care about anything else. I don’t want to care that they are loud at inappropriate times, that they make a mess out of everything they touch, that they still wake up in the middle of the night, that they only want to wear the clothes they pick out, and that they will not eat any of the food that I cook. Why do I let these small things bother me?
Touching your children
Because I struggle to slow myself enough to take it all in during the day, I cannot go to sleep at night without “touching” my children. My husband asks me every night when I get in bed, “have you touched the kids?” This started when my daughter was born and has turned into my nightly routine. Once the kids are asleep, I go in their room and sit on their bed and just stare. I straighten them up in bed, straighten their jammies, and move their hair out of their faces. Mostly so I can study every square inch of their beautiful faces.
Sometimes I get tears in my eyes, but these are tears of love and joy. I want their faces to be the last thing I see before I go to sleep, because the question is always “What if this is the last time I get to do this?” There is nothing more soothing or beautiful in this world than a peaceful, sleeping child. This is when I pray for them, ask for forgiveness for being a rotten mom during the day, and of course, vow to do a better job the next day.
So if you struggle like me to soak it all up during the hustle and bustle of your day, I encourage you to touch your children tonight before you go to sleep. This is one thing you will never regret.